Overall, I find the story well written and easily understood. Although, I find the subject to be sensitive, which must be addressed. I can relate to the writer because she mentions weddings. When I think of weddings I reminisce my childhood role-playing weddings with my doll toys. Now that I am older, marriage is more of a reality than imagination.
It is interesting how this article made me aware of the rituals more than I used to understand them. I have been to a couple of marriages, but I didn’t know the significance of each ritual or tradition carried out in the ceremony. Now I understand more that the ceremony vary differently based on the union it is under.
When the author describes how relationships then marriages didn’t work, I felt bad for her. When she said she preferred to spend the rest of her life with another women, it didn’t surprise me. Sometimes when women have been hurt physically and morally in their relationship with men, they turn to women. They think the same gender will understand her better and they will be treated better, which is the same with men.
Personally I think that if people are happy with their relationship be able to get married and the law should accept them. My best friend confessed to me couple years ago that he was gay. He was really scared that his family and his friends and I would not accept him the way he was. I helped him go through that period and now everything is fine and he is happy with where he is and the way things are going for him.
When it comes down to having children, it is a different story. The couple needs to be careful to think about what their child is going to go through on an every day basis because they might have either two mothers or two fathers. As long as the child is treated well, is happy and grows up in a saint/good environment, that is what matters more. They need to think about the best interest of the kid and not necessarily their own.
Just recently we have been able to overcome racism in dramatic leaps. Today there are more and more people in relationships or marriage with someone from a different background, religion and color. Hopefully in the next decades, we will be able to be more tolerant towards preferences of homosexuality in terms of relationships and marriage.
Questions:
1. Why do people change their attitudes toward a person when they find out someone is a homosexual?
2. How does it make you feel when you find out that one of your friends is gay/lesbian (if that happened to you)? How would you react? Would that change the way you see him/her?
3. How hard do you think it is for two people from different backgrounds, religions and cultures to have their “dream wedding” without offending anyone from their respective families?
I think it would be really hard to have a "dream wedding" coming from different background. Even my parents had issues at their wedding despite the fact that they were both Catholic, white and from pretty good families. My mom's family was from the south so they expected things to be very nice and elegant whereas my dad's family from small town Nebraska expected everything to be a little more casual. This caused some tension at their wedding so I think that no matter what, there might always be some tension. I just wish people would be more accepting of others ways and try to accommodate for differences.
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